A Finer Way to Fail

Shuuussssh. Do. not. say. a. word.

No matter how tempting it is, keep. your. mouth. shut.

That's what Derek Sivers has to say about goals in this 3 minute TED talk, as shared by the folks at FinerMinds.

Well, I'm still learning, so of course I've done it wrong. Apparently, by sharing my goals here, or anywhere for that matter, I'm setting myself up for failure.

I had thought that by declaring publicly, I would have to 'come through with it.' But their experiments indicate otherwise and I do admit my progress is slower than I would like.

Mr Tall Dark and Incredibly Wrong

He's tall, he's dark, he's handsome. He's funny. He's smart. He's part Italian and part Persian, has a gorgeous accent, and  comes from Dubai, the city of glitter.

Did I mention he lives here?

Wouldn't you know that before I'm even fully engulfed in my physical goal, another goal shows up. I haven't even put it in writing yet -- a factor all the experts say you must do. Yes, I want a relationship, too.

For our first date a few weeks back he asked that I wear a little black dress with cleavage and leg, Chanel eau verte, and fuck me boots (ecusez-moi pour ma français). 

The fm boots also had to be black. 

I had pearls, though he would of preferred Tiffany's. He had other requests as well -- but let's not get distracted in details.

Physical Goals: My Whys

Why?

It's an age-old question. And one the self-help gurus recommend you answer for each of your goals. Apparently, the more answers you have, the more likely you are to achieve your goals; in fact, the strongest goal-setters may have as many as 100 reasons -- or more -- for why they want a particular goal!

I don't have that many. I don't know if that makes my physical goals weak. Never-the-less, here they are:

My Overall Goal Plan

I recently came across a poster on facebook that said:

My Goal:

Imagine It

Go After It

Achieve It

This inspired me to think about my own 'overall' life goal. With thanks to Mermaids-of-the-Lake, whom I hope you will visit and give lots of likes, I am adopting this goal, with some small exceptions:

Pushing an Elephant up a Mountain

Walk before running. That's what Brian Tracy says about goal-setting.

This is comforting to hear because the process of achievement seems so slow. Like most people, I want results -- um -- like, yesterday! (As an aside I also don't want it to take too much effort.)

Don't expect much, do I? <sheepish grin>

This is the challenge of goal-setting -- wanting too much too fast. It usually results in running a marathon three days in a row and then dropping the process altogether.

Some authors reinforce this by saying you must have all areas of your life sorted out and be working on each at an even pace (see the goal wheel) to be a success. You should want a perfectly round (balanced) wheel.

Realistically, how does that happen in a modern busy life? I get distracted and overwhelmed just thinking about it! If I had perfect balance already, I wouldn't need to be goal-setting.

Allan Wilson, in his book The Quick and Tiny Guide to a Great Big Life, says that working on too many areas at the same time can be like...

Physical Goals 2012: A Perfect Fit

Wow! I knew this already, but somehow making my intentions public creates even more awareness that time flies and it's challenging to make regular progress!

This is my first attempt to write out my Physical vision and goals. This is also the primary goal I am working on for 2012.

My vision:

I have a fit, healthy, energy-filled, beautiful, sexy, attractive and youthful, mind, body and soul. I turn heads when I walk by. It is difficult for people to know how old I am and, no matter how old I get, they generally assume I am in my early to mid-thirties. I feel this way also. I look after myself in a manner that ensures I will remain this way until and beyond the time when science and technology solve the issues of illness, aging and death.